STEPFAMILIES-INTERNATIONAL
Dr. Margorie Engel

Stepfamily Holiday Travels

Here are suggestions for a more effective parenting relationship before and during the holidays. Booklet includes tips for parents in the receiving household, parents in the departing household, communication with children, packing hints, and ways the receiving household can help children relax and "settle in."

IF YOU ARE PARENTS IN THE RECEIVING HOUSEHOLD

Provide to the other parent and stepparent:
- Calendar of scheduled activities
- Transportation options
- List of clothing and special gear needed
- Suggested schedule for absent parent to talk with  children
- Packet of information for the children
 (maps, public transportation schedules, places of  interest and things to do)

IF YOU ARE PARENTS IN THE DEPARTING HOUSEHOLD

With the Other Parent and Stepparent
- Acknowledge travel plans and coordinate schedules and  gift giving
- Provide informaiton about children's changes or new  idiosyncracies
- Provide contact information for reaching you
- If needed, arrange for the children's passports and  pre-paid international phone cards
- Prepare "Consent to Travel" documents

Together With the Children
- Prepare for environmental changes
- Make written itinerary and put in children's room
- Provide calendar so children can mark off days until  trip
- Identify and prepare appropriate clothing and  medications

PACKING
- Write a checklist of items being packed AND to be  re-packed for the return trip
- Provide recipes for food allergies
- Prepare luggage tags for both home addresses
- List of family's and friend's addresses and phone  numbers
- "Consent to Travel" documents

WHEN CHILDREN ARRIVE IN RECEIVING HOUSEHOLD

- Let departure household know about safe arrival
- Help children unpack
- Create the start of an arrival day ritual



Selected Works

A. Non-Fiction: Wedding Planning for Complicated Families
A fresh approach with insights to families with non-traditional dynamics - when the bride or groom is from a divorced family or they are entering a second marriage.
B. Non-Fiction: Stepfamily Finances
Stepfamily financial organization and management booklets
C. Non-Fiction: Stepfamily Dynamics
Back and forth between Mom's house and Dad's house.
D. Non-Fiction: Divorce Management
A guide to organizations, agencies and publications, with expert advice on legal, financial, and personal matters
E. Non-Fiction: Divorce Management
A Planning and Action Guide with 55 FORM-ulas™ to help you in the Four Key Decisions Areas: *Financial *Legal *Practical *Emotional